Sunday, October 01, 2006

The words we use.

Sometimes the words we use to define a relationship or an event do not truly reflect the character of that relationship or event. Usually, for lack of a more precise and generally accepted word, we settle for the vernacular.

Break up. Maybe some people really do break up, but it seems to me that what our society recognizes as breaking up - or ending a relationship - is sometimes more of a letting go. You let go of the way things are, you let go of hopes, of plans, and you let go of memories. You let go of each other.

Sometimes one person wants to be let go or let the other go. Sometimes both need to let go. Sometimes neither want it.

How often do neither want it, yet are strong enough to do it?

Author Richard Back said "If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were." It is a very painful thing to realize that someone you love was never yours to have.

What if you were never theirs to have either?

If you let each other go and you love each other, is it really a break up?

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